Ever since my boys were born I have always seen such different personalities in them. And it always makes me giggle when people comment on how different their personalities are. YUP they couldn’t be more different. I always like to share the story about the time our counter broke because it shows each boy’s personality difference in a nut shell.
The story goes like this:
We had just gotten brand new Quartz counters and I loved them so much. Hubby was out watching a movie that I didn’t want to see with his buddies, so I was making pancakes for dinner for my boys. Quick and easy, they love them, and hubby doesn’t like breakfast for dinner. I was using my counter top grill, and well I heard a really bad noise. Very bad. Like brand new Quartz counters cracking in 1/2 noise. It can’t be though, right? I mean could they really be broken?
Yes. Yes they were. Big huge crack.
Generally when things like this go wrong and the boys are there I want to panic but I remain fairly calm. Not this time. I basically lost my mind. There was no calm. There was no “ok boys let’s figure this out” this was Mommy instantly sobbing and gagging… I was instant panic attack. Logic fled my head and I was in sheer panic. They had never seen me like this before or since that day. But it wasn’t pretty. This is when they went into action.
Boy 1 – Usually quiet and let’s his brothers take the lead, came right over, put his arms around me and talked gently.
“It’s ok Mom. Everything is going to be ok. I know it’s a new counter and cost us a lot of money but we are all ok, and Daddy will not be mad. It was an accident”. Just kept hugging me, rubbing my back and calming me down. He then asked me what he could do to help and what was the next step we could do. He was doing a great job of getting me calmed and my brain back engaged.
Boy 2 – He is my character, the life of the house. He gets every one laughing and rolling on the floor, and takes charge most of the time. He is not good in a crisis.
He just stood beside me losing his mind too. Sobbing, screaming and yelling “OH NO!!! We are all going to die because the counter broke and it’s so awful, and Mommy is upset so we will all die!!” When I am upset there is no calm in that kid, and he is over dramatic so it’s not well this is not good. Nope it’s pretty much, Mom is freaking out, it’s mission critical, death is imminent. Not exactly what I needed. But it’s totally him, and makes me giggle now. Pretty much if I am freaking out, I find calm somewhere in me and push it to the surface so he doesn’t get freaked out and freak everyone else out.
Boys 3 – He is the youngest, and they don’t think he is very capable of things. But he really is. He sits back, assesses the situation and then jumps into action.
So when I was freaking out he immediately stopped eating, looked at me, listened to me saying the counter cracked in 1/2. He watched one brother freak out, and another calm me down. He came over kissed my elbow and said he would handle it. He looked at the counter to see it really was broken. Then I heard him mumble “hmmm now how do we fix this”. Then he said “Daddy will fix it”. And he ran off finding Daddy. Daddy wasn’t in any of the usual spots he is in if he isn’t right there with us. Then he came back and asked his big brother where Daddy was. He was informed he is gone out and then he went to get the phone. He wanted to call Daddy. When I said I had to call the counter company, he said he would call them and handle it for me. Or just to leave it Daddy would do it.
It’s funny to see their personalities emerge so clearly. My middle one is always over the top on everything. So he is fun and quirky, but doesn’t handle when things go wrong with me well. The other 2 are good in the crisis so he lets them handle it. Usually when they are lost, he is the one that tells them what to do and usually the reason they are playing something they shouldn’t and get in trouble.
Over all I love each of their personalities and the person they are. If my middle one was less dramatic in a crisis he wouldn’t be as over the top in other aspects of life and he wouldn’t be what we need daily.